My Break From Social Media
II found myself being sucked into Instagram and Facebook every time I went to do a simple task on my phone. A deep pattern of addiction, and the feeling of constant anxiety, depression, and lack of control. All because of these apps.
Once I realized the control was no longer mine, I knew I had to make a change. I had to cut it out cold turkey because I knew I wasn’t going to be able to reduce my usage or totally avoid it if the apps were on my phone. I was inspired by my close friend who had made the decision to delete the app for 2 days a week to break the cycle. I knew two days wasn’t going to cut it for me, so I decided to try a week.
Instagram and Facebook can be a tricky thing. In my experience, these apps have truly help me to connect with others, promote my businesses and share what I learn with others in hopes to inspire them. The question I ask myself is, when is it too much? When do you start to forget who you are? When do you begin to use it to numb things going on inside?
Then it happened to me. I lost myself in the world of likes, comments and self-image.
So, I made the decision. One week without Instagram or Facebook. I knew I wanted to practice more presence in my life, feel more in the moment and feel connected again.
So here is what I have learned:
1. I had more time and more presence
My days became longer and I accomplished more. I was able to accomplish more work, connect with more friends in a deeper way and took more time for self-care and rest.
I remembered to text people back instead of answering them in my head. This was a big one because I never felt like I had the energy or time to text someone back, it felt overwhelming! Once I took more time to be more present, I found myself truly invested in conversation and checking in with others.
2. I lived with more intention
This week I was able to go through my days, calm my thoughts and become more intentional about what and how I was doing things. My meditations became deeper, I re-started my gratitude journal and my conversations with my partner were deep and meaningful. I was able to realize that checking my phone while someone is speaking is incredibly disrespectful. I know because it happened to me this week and it made me feel unimportant and that my words and feelings were not valued.
3. I redefined social media as a tool
One definition of a tool is a device or implement used to carry out a particular function. Social media can be great if used in this way, to carry out a particular function. Things like staying connected, learning, sharing ideas, inspiring, being inspired. Just like any tool how you use it is key. I knew the tool was using me (ie sucking me into scrolling in my bed in the morning). I’m not using the tool; the tool is using me. Note to self: don’t become the tool.
4. I rediscovered my reason for engaging
Why do I engage on social? This was a big question I reflected on. What I came to was that social can be a great value add to both my business and life. It helps me stay connected, learn, get inspired, and share about what is inspiring me.
Being intentional about what content gets let in and what content I engage with is a big one. My brain is a sacred place and I’m committed to having only high vibe quality content going in there. Being mindful about how content is making me feel and being intentional about inspiration, connection, and learning being my “why” is my new filter.
5. I developed a set of self-management rules
The best thing that came out of my time away from social was that it exposed some of the rules I needed to put into place to make my relationship with social a win/win.
These are my 5 Social rules:
Never check social before 9am.
Sundays are my sabbath and completely tech free.
Be intentional about my engagement by creating more meaningful connections.
No mindless scrolling.
Only share content I’m inspired to share.
Overall, my experiment to delete Instagram and Facebook for one week turned out quite well.
Simple changes with big impact.
I hope this post has inspired you to take a break and disconnect to reconnect. Please let me know down below in the comments!