What to Do When You Feel Like Giving Up

You will hit that low. A low where it feels like nothing is working in your favour, or things feel like they are crumbling apart.

 On those days, when you’re ready to throw in the towel, when the thing that you loved isn’t making you happy, or it’s downright frustrating you. When you start to feel the imposter syndrome creep in and think, “maybe I just can’t do this”.

Come back to this.

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^ let that sink in and then take a deep breath.

 

Life is crazy, and winding, and most definitely not linear. Things that I thought would be easy end up being more complicated and time consuming. Ideas that I thought were great failed. And it’s hard!

 Here are some of the tactics I fall back on when I feel like I’m on the edge of giving up.

 

1. Remind Yourself Why You Started

 

Think back to those early days when you were excitedly jotting down your idea on a piece of paper, or writing down your goals with pretty pens in your favorite notebook and making a moodboard to go along with the whole thing.

And the moments where it started to become real and little shifts we happening.

You will get back to those moments again, remember you CAN figure this out, you’ve made it this far. Focus on the big picture and remind yourself that hurdles and frustrations are simply part of the process.  

Take some time to write down why you started and work through those emotions in order to come back to the big picture. I’d also highly recommend have a business plan (check out my business plan blog here) which will help remind you of your original missions and intentions and help keep you on track.  

2. Remember It’s the Hardest Before It’s Easy

 

The good news about a hard time? You can bet it’s only going to get better from here. Remembering this gives me a lot of hope. I know that all the work I put in, and the hard times I push through will pay off. I just have to keep moving forward one day at a time.

What I’ve learned is that the low points actually forced me to figure out what wasn’t working and then change something to help me get ahead.

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3. Take Just One Step

 

It those moments where you feel super stuck, or you don’t know how to move forward to work through a problem, you need to find a way to take just one step.

We can do this by mapping out all the steps required to work through the task and figuring out what the first thing we need to do is. Or, leaving that area of things alone all together and getting ahead on something else even if it wasn’t your original plan.

I find that on days I’m feeling super unmotivated to work I just remind myself to keep plugging along, even if I get just one more task complete it’s better than completely quitting the day, feeling sorry for myself, and laying on the couch.

Taking one step in the direction you want to go in is all you need to think about. We sometimes overthink and overanalyze everything the needs to be done, making it feel daunting and overwhelming. Instead, break it down, make it bite-sized, and keep putting one foot in front of the other.

 

4. Look Back at How Far You Have Come

 

Really, you have come SO far. Be gentle with yourself. Take time to appreciate everything you have done so far. It’s easy to forget where you started.

Imagine if your friend was explaining to you how stressed and overwhelmed she felt. I’m sure you’d have nothing but words of encouragement for them so make sure you give yourself that same grace. Constantly trying to achieve more and do more can lead to burnout. Trust me, I’ve been there.

Something I’ve found supportive is to have a ‘wins’ notebook or white board to look back on to help remind you of all the things you HAVE accomplished, no matter how big or small. Basically at the end of each week or month you simply write down your wins; “Landed a new client”. “Got approval for xyz”. “Finally invested in a mastermind program”. “Read two books”. Looking back through it will really put into perspective how much you’ve done and looking through it is always a great motivator!

 

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When all the frustration is piling on itself. When you’ve lost money on a business venture. When you can’t see the light at the end of the tunnel..take a step back, look at the big picture, identify what you CAN control right now and continue to move forward.

You can do this, I believe in you.

Do you have any other sure fire tactics to get through a low? Let me know in the comments below.





Giovanna Minenna